Meeting someone new is very nerve wrecking and exciting at the same time. I have been on numerous first dates. Most of them ended up in failure, not as what I expected and some of them turn out to be jack in a box surprises.
Last week after suffering one of the worst first date in my life. I decided to compile a list on what or what no to do in your first date. I'll tell you all later about the date.
1. Never go out on a Movie on your first date.
This is very crucial when you don't even have a clue how's that special someone is and furthermore the other person doesn't know how you're like. Appearence can be deceiving. Movie is too common.
Suggestion for an excellent first date:
a) Go ice skating even both of you don't have any idea how.
b) Go bowling.
c) If its' available and your daddy is loaded, go parachuting.
d) Go jogging on the park.
Keyword here: Bonding.
Typicaly simple would be
-Dinner-
Any Tom, Dick or Harry could do this.
2. Never reveal your bad habits.
I know maybe today you got sore throat and you need to spit your lungs out. However be ladylike or gentlemen. Always be cultured. Have some class for god's sake.
3. Always be prepared for a date.
Guys, take a bath first.. that the simplest idea I can give you. No slippers, shoes+socks please.
Ladies, the way you present yourself is important. Never too sexy. I know wearing that push-up bra is very tempting. If possible be angelic, the way you present yourself will illicit the same response you will get. Let's say if you're dress up in black, and it's seems the tailor has just ran out of material for your dress. What do you get? Guys are stupid. They always think what you see is what you get- a sarong party girl.
Suggestion, wear white. If you're guys going out on a casual date wear white top with jeans. No T-shirt.
4. Never ever expose your past relationship or whatever "Friends" you have.
You might sound nice to tell your date that she is much better than your ex. This is not a compliment. People don't like comparison, they might think you are still on the rebound and still hung up on your ex.
5. Losing is also winning.
Don't brag. Never try to top your date. Let's say your date say "I'm really tired and busy today" I know the common response would be "Me too. I am also busy ... bla bla bla" Friend, here is not a place for you to find something in common and connect.
Here a simple advise. Reply like this.. "You must be tired." Be thoughtful of others' feeling.
6. Focus
Like every sport, first date is also like a game. You have to anticipate be prepared. Dont look at other people around you, especially if the was a sexy supermodel walk by you. People are really insecure about their looks. If possible turn off your handphone. No one likes to be the side order of a main course for a dinner.
7. Be honest.
I know people tend to overexaggarate about themselves. Here's the some of the lines I always here ladies tell me about their dates mistakes:
"I'll take care of it, besides I don't know what to do with my money"
"I don't really exercise, however I'm thinking of Beijing 2006"
"I'm not saying that I'm a genious but I always think IQ test was easy"
Most of the points need elaborating. Futhermore i need three more points. It's a 10 things list!
